No, you don't have to wear white, according to this book by Anna Post, which is the latest of the wedding books that I have been borrowing from the library (why buy when I'm only going to use them this one time? :) I, of course, will be wearing white. Well, ivory. It goes much better with my skin tone.Anyway, this book was useful because it covered all sorts of etiquette questions, as well as the nuts and bolts of the ceremony and reception. All that stuff that I feel a little bit clueless about. I really liked that the book included lots of questions about same-sex weddings, too.
Which reminds me of a phone conversation I had with my brother in CT a couple of weeks ago. He told me that he was talking about the wedding with his family, and someone - presumably his wife or one of my nieces or nephew - asked why I was getting married in California instead of Connecticut, where most of my family is. Um, maybe because I haven't lived in CT since I was 18? Maybe because I've been in San Francisco for 10 years now? Maybe because Dave's family and friends are all in the Bay Area, and it's a heck of a lot easier on everyone to have it here rather than have them all trek out to CT?
It actually never occurred to me to have the wedding anywhere but here. But when I think about it, there are two reasons why having it in CT would have been cool. Reason #1, of course, is my Mom. Because she's getting on in years and because she has always hated to travel, she won't be coming to the wedding, a decision I fully support and am at peace with. Reason #2 is because I love the idea of getting married in a state that allows same-sex couples to be wed. Hooray, CT ! And Massachussetts, and Iowa, and soon Vermont, New Hampshire, and possibly Maine. I still can't believe how backwards the majority of California is on this issue. I know it's just a matter of time. But in the meantime, I love the idea of some "Yes on 8" Central Valley bride-to-be reading this book and seeing that the Emily Post people approve of gay weddings!
I am a Gay very excited to come to your Straight Wedding.
ReplyDeleteI remember the SCANDAL in the early 80s when my aunt "couldn't" wear white to her wedding, and they had to contact all the invitees to request that no one else wear white so her off-white dress wouldn't look DIRTY. The "dirty" implication being, of course...